Serial Sex: Why Celebrities & Politicians Risk Everything for Forbidden Pleasure

Serial Sex: Why Celebrities & Politicians Risk Everything for Forbidden Pleasure
Deborah Schurman-Kauflin, Ph.D., Behavioral Profiler
Violent Crimes Institute, President
They seem to have it all. They are the rich and powerful. They enjoy a lifestyle that few will ever get. From the outside, their lives are perfect. Yet, over and over, sex brings down the most famous. Without fail, every year a high profile person is exposed for having an affair, being a sex addict, sexting, or other raunchy activities. People can’t get enough of it. The lure of hot sex is irresistible.
Basically, sex sells. You see it almost everywhere you look. From scantily clad cheerleaders at sports games to singers who wear provocative outfits on stage, audiences want to be turned on. Las Vegas is built on gambling and sex shows. And people flock there to see the world famous Chippendale dancers and other strip shows. Isn’t it amazing how much people smile there! Everyone wants and needs fun, but in today’s world, good times are hard to find. Stress is unbearable, and people need outlets.
Fifty one year old actor Doug Hutchison married a voluptuous 16 year old blonde. Chinese billionaire Wang Gongquan literally ran off with his mistress and let everyone know by tweeting it. Of course we all know about Anthony Weiner and Arnold Schwarzenegger. Everyone asks: why would they risk their positions in life for sex? Most of these people are high achievers because they are driven to succeed. They want to be the best, and though they are successful, they find no joy. So at their core is an emptiness that they are trying to fill. Too many times they believe that if they just get famous or powerful enough, then they will be content. But it usually doesn’t work that way.
High stress levels come with their status. Society expects them to live and look a certain way. They are expected to perform. This produces an explosive powder keg! When people find themselves in high profile jobs and lives, they learn that the attention and pressure are overwhelming. They may remember times when they were much happier, usually when younger and unattached. This makes them crave the sexual excitement that they had before. Sex is a basic desire, and it makes the brain light up with endorphins. Sexual pleasure actually can make you feel happy, like a drug. So many people are drawn to it, even when it seems to cause harm to their families. Inside, these people are trying to find happiness and relief from life’s pains.
Have you ever noticed that there is sadness in these people? Are they acting out to destroy themselves? The truth is, successful individuals often feel that they are not really good enough. This causes them great internal stress, so they look for a quick high with sex. Are they sabotaging themselves? Though they may not realize it, they are putting themselves in a position where they may be forced from their cherished positions in life. But this may be exactly their goal. . They do not have to admit that the strain of their lives and jobs was too great if a sex scandal brings them down. Perhaps they truly were unhappy in their relationships but simply couldn’t bring themselves to break it off. Maybe they needed to step away from their careers but could not do it.
Then there is the tremendous attention that comes with a sex scandal. People driven to succeed need their egos stroked. Even though they may be torn apart in the media, they still receive great attention, and attention pays off. Many times, they end up with even more money and opportunities. In essence, there are great rewards to engaging in sexual escapades. Yes, what they do is hurtful to their families. However, these are human beings.
We live in a world where families are torn, stress is high, and happiness is hard to get. So it is no surprise that so many are trying to grab their happiness with sex. There is no doubt we will see even more salacious sex scandals. No matter how many times the media shakes its fist at the Arnold Schwarzeneggers of the world, the lure of forbidden pleasure will always be too tempting. Who will be next?
Deborah Schurman-Kauflin, Ph.D. “Dr. Deb” is an expert on human behavior and criminal profiler who has studied sexual behavior and sex crimes for over 20 years. She is president of the Violent Crimes Institute and may be contacted at: info @ drdsk.com

Advertisements

Tags:

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out / Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out / Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out / Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out / Change )

Connecting to %s


%d bloggers like this: